Wild Wheelchair Ride

Okay, here's the deal. My husband and I have been together almost 10 years, married for 6. We have a blended family that includes three children.

Long story short, he's driving me bananas.

At least two or three times, every single day, he plays pranks on me. These include such lame things as sneaking up on me in the shower and yelling "RAR" so loud that I jump out of my skin, calling me at work and pretending to be someone else (i.e. "this is the chocolate factory. Your order is ready...), knocking on the wall so I think someone is knocking at the door, saying embarrassing things to me very loudly in a crowded store (i.e. "those tampons you are buying are soooo huge!! How will we fit them in?"), and pulling down my pajama pants every time I walk by. Oh, those are just a few of his tactics. I never know what he's got up his sleeve.

He's always played pranks since I've known him, but have happened more and more frequently as the years have gone on. I can enjoy the occasional prank as well as anyone, but c'mon, it's gotten out of control. I'm always on the lookout for what he's planning next. It's exhausting. And he's no kid. The man is 35 for crying out loud. I feel like he's my fourth child and definitely the worst behaved!

Can anyone give me some tips for dealing with this or getting him to tone it down a bit? I really am at my wit's end. The first two or three times it was funny. 56,000 times later, not so much.

I just envision the two of us in wheelchairs in the rest home and my husband will be plotting how to sneak over to unlock the brakes on my wheelchair so I take a wild, crazy ride down the wheelchair ramp. Will the madness ever end!?!

So, short of tasering him within one inch of his life, how can I get him to stop or keep his pranks to a minimum. Please don't say talk to him about it. I have until I'm blue in the face and he just laughs and it seems to egg him on. Any other suggestions appreciated. Even revenge. Yes. I've come to that point.

Thanks for reading my long rant and please help me out here people!!

I'm wondering if your husband's behaviour is not simply abuse. Try reading the book by Lundy Bancroft: Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men. Also, a book about boundaries would be helpful, you could try, When to say yes, when to say no, to take control of your life, by Townsend and Cloud. You deserve to be well treated.

2009-02-25 20:20:44 by curiosity_killed_the_cat_1977

Jasper gets a wild ride in his wheelchair with his sister Ella in control.

I just came back from vacation and weighed myself on my usual scale. I was horrified to see I had put on 22 pounds during my 2 weeks away. (178 pounds to 200 pounds)

I spent a week at Disney where I walked my A$$ off pushing a wheelchair in 95+ heat. Then a I spent a week at the beach riding my bike and swimming every day.

I ate well, but not to wild excess. I did not snack out or eat a bunch of junk.

I'm male - high 30's - physically fit and well.

Some of it could be increased muscle mass which weighs more than fat, some of it could be water weight and some of it could be an inaccurate scale.

That seems excessive at any rate.

If you gained weight but your clothes still fit and you feel ok then it is probably increased muscle mass.

2007-08-27 13:10:51 by nickhull

Okay...so if you are reading this, you might want to grab a soft seat to sit in...It will take you for a wild ride, like it did me. So..a little over a year ago, my ex-fiance and I were involved in an accident. A woman hit us head on in an intersection. We were traveling at about 55mph and she was turning left in front of us. She ran a red light, hitting us head on. My ex was driving my car at the time. My car was completely totaled. I suffered a broken right hand, right foot, fractured ribs, and obviously many bumps and bruises from the seat belt and what not. I also broke one of my back molars which has had to be replaced with an implant. I also have to get an additional surgery to my foot, since I have developed a bunyonette from the calcium build up around the screws in my foot. My ex got a concussion and suffers from partial memory loss and mood changes...thus the "ex" part. Obviously, I received surgery on my hand and foot and physical therapy for both. I was in a wheelchair and out of work for close to 3 months. Here is where it gets tricky...The accident was exactly 2 months prior to our set wedding date. Thus, leaving me with many out of pocket expenses to cover, such as non-refundable down payments on my dress, the church, reception hall, and of course the wedding rings. The rings were on both of our credit because he did not have enough credit to purchase them on his own. Call me naive, I suppose. It was determined in the police report that it was the other drivers fault, and we also have video evidence of the intersection at the time of th accident. So I guess what my question is, is....Am I deserving of some sort of compensation for these wedding expenses such as invites...flowers...the cake..etc. since I would have gotten married if my fiance had not experienced substantial memory loss? Or am I only deserving of the medical bills, lost wages, pain and suffering, etc. and can you tell me how much from the provided information? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

The BI (bodily injury) claim representative from the other party's insurer will monitor your recovery from your injuries and in time will make you an offer to settle the claim. When you settle, that is it, end of the line. It might be worth the cost (usually 1/3 of your recovery amount) to hire an attorney to fight for you and introduce the other expenses you incurred as a secondary result of your accident. The amount you will receive will be limited by the maximum the other party's policy will allow. Good luck!

2008-11-06 12:34:06 by breiegirl