How To Choose A Wheelchair

i started dating my bf a years ago-we knew each other 2 years before dating (thru work )

He father is a alcoholic totally gone ,mother suffer from major stress and brother in a wheelchair -now i knew all this before starting dating him but in all he is a great person look after everybody ,so funny -he truly a great person when he want to be

everything was great at first (like it always in relationship)but over time his real side showed -very bad tempter -gambling we always argued over it , i also started to realize that he would have a drink every single day -i like my drink but not everyday -he always had a excuse ,He was never wrong always right ,didn't think of doing anything romantic i started getting fed up and neglected so of course argue with him over it more and more he was not treating me like a bf is suppose toO-

i am very open person with a very good family and love going out ,looking after myself ,iam also very head strong so wouldn't take s...t from him ,
Now why i put up with it i don't know i guess i tried to understand where all thIS anger was coming from,he really had it bad as a child(Father beat him up,mother scared of leaving dad,bully @school) ,i really wanted to help him -so even when we flighted i give him few day then i call him and we be Back on again

he often say bad things like (insult) b word c word ect...why i stayed??? i swear to god i dont know (i care for people )i felt very sorry for him -plus the way he looked after hes disable brother showed his very good side -hes fantastic with him ....which i love that about him

he obviously hate his father CUX his father left the mother looking after his brother in the wheelchair and choose the drinks ,he always say things like "i ll never be like him " but i could see him turning like his dad -big time


it s hard explain -what i am tryin to say is that he treated my like s**t for a year ,on our last fight he txt me and said we over -(we mosly argue about not going out -his drinking ect only thing is he always walk out in the middle of a fight and left me standing stress cuz he wouldn't hear the other side )

but anyway 3 weeks no conctat -i finally stop thinkin bout him -move on and most importantly reflected on the relationship i had with him and realize that while i was with him i lost myself totally i gave him to much chances -i followed his ruled -i guess i fell in love but i was never happy

i am much happIER whitout him in my life -our relationSHIP was never great-he never stop drinkin -smoking i told him many time hes killing himself slowly

-haven't heard anything from him till now today -a phone call crying begging me to come back (he broke up with me )saying that he has being the biggest asshole -he so sorry for neglecting me -i am the best thing that ever happen to him -if he didn't meet me a years ago he would have bein dead by now -he ll stop drinking-i was too good for him -he do whatever i want him to do -hes really begging me very bad -i never heard or saw him cry but he has bein on the phone cryin all day saying he cant live without me ??

now 2 weeks ago i met a guy in a cafe -a fantastic man -that took me out for dinner last week ,had a great laugh ,adorable,we reallt connected- 100per cent the opp off my ex -i felt so special -thats when i realize what i missed for a year

i cannot go bck to my ex -i lost myself with him -i need to cut all ties with him -but i have a heart i still wanna help him -he a troubled guy -with a good heart -i never live with myself if anything happen to him -and to be honest i tried sooo hard with him in the past i feel numb toward him now -i guess i got hurt too often

how can i be there for him just as a friend

guy i need advice really bad

thank you
thank for the comment i appreciate.......

if helping this person means loosing yourself, it's not worth it. u cant help everybody in the world but most importantly, when u are helping someone, u have to be right (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, whatever u wanna call it). u cant help someone when u don't know yourself or loose yourself. it's good that u met this uy in a cafe to show u what a real man has to offer to you..look at it as a sign of what u shoud be and how u should feel when your with a guy.
a relationship isn't meant to better the person or to help them. if you're in the relationship for that reason, its not going to go far. u will have this burden on your shoulders that will never go away and it will relationship will end up in an unhappy situation.

2010-02-28 18:36:39 by lababe

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I can walk, but with extreme pain, though I have not yet been diagnosed with anything the pain is also there when I am not walking and is in various parts of my body, I also have weakness in my ankles, knees, and one hip, and back pain. Walking causes my to be fatigued too and I end up spending much of my time in bed.
I chose to get a wheelchair, which I self propell when I can, at a daycentre I go to during the day, and when I go into town, and at times of severe exhaustion my partner pushes me.
The pain is much less and I find that I am not so worn out when I get home, and it has felt so much better that I am currently using the chair all of the time when out of my home.
I have had very negative reactions from staff at the daycentre I go to - who have called me lazy, (despite that using the chair I am getting more exercise than I have been able to in years), and say I am too young to be taking to a chair (I'm 30), they keep telling me to get out of the chair and exercise, even though this defeats the object of allowing me to rest my body. I think they would rather I suffered the pain or didn't come to the center.
My parents have also been very against me using a chair, and say it will make me less mobile because I am not using my legs when I'm out of the house.
Because I already have mental health problems the way people are treating me is really affecting and hurting me.
How can I deal with this sort of reaction and show them that I am actually better off using the chair, even if I do so for the rest of my life?
Although as I said I do not have a definite diagnosis, I am waiting to see specialists for more tests, I have been told by the doctors who I have seen so far that using the chair is best for me at this point. Apologies for not being clearer about that, and thanks so much for all the replies, I appreciate them all.
Also, in ref. to Madkins reply, I am not a full time user and do walk for short distances and in my home, albeit with difficulty. I am not resigning myself to becoming a permanant chair user and if the tests which I have lead to me being given options to avoid using a chair then I will follow that advice.

These people do not understand the way the body works. If your body gets over tired and you keep on moving you can end up hurting yourself. Once you lose your mobility it is harder to get it back versus keeping your mobility and using it when you feel good. I do more than I ever did using a scooter than I did when walking once things got rough.

Use your chair when you are going to be out for a long time. And try to maintain your mobility on your legs at home. Balance between using and not using will get you farther.

2008-08-08 13:07:50 by knitty_kitten

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I've never written to an elected official in my life. It's time I learn how. Especially since it's a class project. The issue I chose was more accessible wheelchair side walks and transportation. Does anyone know which official I should address this with?

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2008-10-07 13:35:51 by Social Worker 2 b!

I need to buy the car now and i do not know what model electric scooter/wheelchair the other person will choose or how soon. e.g. scooter that can go up and down kerbs- the Australian Walkabout scooter- but it is 145 cms long and I think the Honda cargo area with the second row of seats folded up is 140 cms long.Would it be possible to get the scooter in at an angle? What weight will the folding table bear? The problem with buying a used car is that if they have been smash repaired the supposed dimensions vary and I find I have to measure each car. So I cannot just measure one model and assume the measurements will be the same for the same model.
I would like to know:
1. Where on the car it says the series - ie MY03

2. Where the engine number is located

3. Where the VIN number is on the car - I want to check it from the car itself,

Can you post photos of these. I saw one Honda and the engine number was written in a series of disconnected strokes and the NRMA have said to beware of engines with numbers written in that style.

I only know that the Vin number is located at the end of the front door in the front dash board on the inside by the driver side. i will say that SUV is kind off to high if you want to put an electric wheelchair in but they are a possible way to make it. check with your local Honda dealer for more information and i will find out more information about this question and i update and edited my answer again if i get a chance OK. good luck.

2007-11-04 13:24:46 by alic02alic

Recently severely strained a tendon in my ankle. I have a good 4-6 weeks of rehab ahead of me and have the use of a wheelchair available to me if I choose to use it. This injury has given me a lot of time on the couch and got me thinking - I never have won a trophy, award or any other kind of accolade in a sporting event. Always seemed to be on the wrong teams from little league, etc.

I believe the Special Olympics is right around the corner and I would like to use the wheelchair available to me and compete against these special folks. Since I have this handicap, I surely qualify for a handful of the events but don't know where to get a start concerning signing up, registration, getting a sponsor, etc.

Can anyone tell me how I can sign up?

i got gold in the special olympics!!!

2007-05-25 06:24:47 by Rick Martel