Esteem Wheelchair

hey everyone :)
i had a car accident last year, which seriously messed my spine, and i'm now in a wheelchair. i'm paralyzed from hip down. until lately ive been noticing how fat i've become, which never occured to me before!! ive got flabs of fat hanging off my waist and about 3 folds of fat on my tummy. i never saw any of this until recently. i'm 5ft7 and im 78 kilo's thats 172 pounds. i really want to loose it, just because i'm disabled doesn't mean that i cant be fit and i just want 2 have a good shape. any food 2 avoid...excersize routines (that aren't tooo hard)

thanks,#

sorry to hear about your accident.
go wheat free. No pasta, pizza, bread and so on. And no food after 7
p.m. People achieve marvellous results with it. Depending on your
initial weight, you can drop upwards from 20 pounds a month. If you don't
eat wheat then you don't eat all those sticky, fatty goey cakes, you
don't eat junk food, and you don't eat biscuits. But your diet is
still balanced. It costs nothing, and you do not have to calculate points or
to buy special meals or plans.
If you are confined to a wheelchair, exercises that increase strength, flexibility and muscle tone can aid weight control and digestion. Increasing upper body strength will also strengthen the heart and lungs. Here are several suggestions to get you started.
1 Eat a snack or light meal one hour before beginning exercise.


Step2 Warm up with 5 to 10 minutes of stretches before exercising.

Step3 Begin with resistance training. This can be done using resistance bands attached to a door handle, a stationary hook or the arm of the wheelchair. Pull the bands towards you or away from you to work muscles. Resistance bands are available in low, medium and high resistances.
Step4 Start with lighter, warm-up resistance bands then gradually increase the resistance between sets. Check out Bill Phillips upper body weight-training workout at bodyforlife.com. He gives detailed information about how many repetitions and sets you should perform for a good workout.
Step5 Exhale as you lift and inhale as you lower the resistance bands.
Step6 Strength train with free weights or dumbbells after the resistance training exercises become too easy.

Step7 Start with lighter, warm-up weights then gradually increase the weight between sets.

Step8 Use exercise enabler equipment specifically designed for wheelchair use.

2008-09-09 08:24:39 by dr0pdead_x

For children who spend many of their days at a hospital wheelchair painting gives them a way to have fun and be like kids. Kids like to get messy ...

Ive been friends with this guy for almost 8 years now. Ive dated a couple guys since ive known him but he hasnt. He has low self esteem because hes in a wheelchair and paralized from the waist down and doesnt feel comfy approaching girls. Anyways, halfway through our friendship he admitted to falling in love /w me. We live in seperate states but have visited each other over the years ALOT. We know each other inside and out, have laughed and cried together. I know his family well and he knows mine. I was his first girl since he was paralized thats hes been intimate with. Were both in our lower 30s but he had his accident right out of high school. I love this man with all my heart soul. I admitted to him after my last break up that I was falling in love with him too. So it was official a year and a half ago that we were dating and he was SO HAPPY because hes wanted to be /w me for so long Last year he lost a family member to cancer. He got very distant and one day told me that he found
someone else. This came out of no where and of course has devastated me because I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We are still in contact, we have phone sex still like once a week sometimes more. We have done that alot over the years when we werent able to see each other. Why do you think hes keeping me around if hes /w someone else? Do u think I have a chance down the line. He knows im in love with him, he knows i would drop everything to move there. Any advice would be great. Im sorry my story is so long
Maybe a male could answer this, do you ever keep an ex around in case it doesnt work out /w your present one? Am i being put on the back burner in case? :(


p.s. only reason he left me was because he couldnt handle the distance and being away from me.

Let go. The worst thing ever is to watch someone you love, love someone else.

Me and my ex, well, we've been exes longer than we've been together.

He was my bf for 1yr and a half, my ex for 6 years. We do the casual love making. It doesn't seem fair to anybody.

He's also seen someone while me and him were still messing around, and he cheated on her with me, but I didn't really consider it cheating, because I always considered him mine.

Anyway, it felt good at first that he wasn't faithful to her because I really couldn't stand her to begin with. But is it really fair to the new love he's found?

Because you already know, you should do what's right.

Just leave a special place for him in your heart.

Like I told him, he can go be with her, I'll be right here for him to lean on when things don't work out, I'll be his friend that listens.

2008-01-14 21:19:25 by ♥ Follow your heart ♥

Price: $4.50

Ive been friends with this guy for almost 8 years now. Ive dated a couple guys since ive known him but he hasnt. He has low self esteem because hes in a wheelchair and paralized from the waist down and doesnt feel comfy approaching girls. Anyways, halfway through our friendship he admitted to falling in love /w me. We live in seperate states but have visited each other over the years ALOT. We know each other inside and out, have laughed and cried together. I know his family well and he knows mine. I was his first girl since he was paralized thats hes been intimate with. Were both in our lower 30s but he had his accident right out of high school. I love this man with all my heart soul. I admitted to him after my last break up that I was falling in love with him too. So it was official a year and a half ago that we were dating and he was SO HAPPY because hes wanted to be /w me for so long Last year he lost a family member to cancer. He got very distant and one day told me that he found
someone else. This came out of no where and of course has devastated me because I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We are still in contact, we have phone sex still like once a week sometimes more. We have done that alot over the years when we werent able to see each other. Why do you think hes keeping me around if hes /w someone else? Do u think I have a chance down the line. He knows im in love with him, he knows i would drop everything to move there
Maybe a male could answer this, do you ever keep an ex around in case it doesnt work out /w your present one? Am i being put on the back burner in case? :(
p.s. only reason he left me was because he couldnt handle the distance and being away from me.
You never experienced a love like this then if you can say true love doesnt exist.

yes,Gwenith>>in your problem u must know two things(somebody you love)and (somebody you like)and the different between those two is>>infront of the person you love him,your heart beats farster,but infront of the person you like him,u get happy.Also infront of person u love him,u can't say everthing in your mind and in the person u like him u can.The feeling of love start from the eyes and feeling of the(like)starting from the ears.So,if u stop liking a person u used to like,all u need to do is cover your ears.But if u try to close your eyes,love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever.

2008-01-21 14:50:52 by ♥ Follow your heart ♥

Price: $12.95

My girlfriend as been in a wheelchair for nearly 2 weeks, shes been paralyzed from the waist down.
The shock hit her bad, at first she said we should only be friends from now on because she didn't feel she had much to offer me, so I reassured her and we were fine up until last night where the same old stuff came back with her saying I deserve more, and that she feels unattractive and she donesn't feel like the same person. She said the peron I fell in love with was the person who could dance and walk and be wild. Then I reassured her that it wasn't that. She keeps saying her self esteem isn't the problem when it obviously is and that she says it's her personality change, and she needs time to 'regain her personality' ?. She said that she needs time to adjust to being the new her before she can feel good enough.
She doesn't feel like a 'real woman',says shes afraid she wont b good enough when it comes 2 sex. Feels 'small'
How long before she accepts herself, and feels cormfortable?
By the way she is in love with me and doesnt want to lose me, so it's not me.
I feel exactly the same (she knows it) and I would do anything for her.
Her being in a wheelchair hasn't affected how I see her physically or mentally.

I became a chair-user 8 years ago.

During a "pain-management" session I was asked "Do you feel guilty?"

I was instantly incensed!!!

GUILTY?
ME???
Why WOULD I be??
What do I have to feel guilty about???
I didn't do anything wrong!!.......

This is hard to put into words...

I always thought my husband was mad at me and when he came home from work each day and he WASN'T mad at me I felt relieved but didn't understand WHY!

I never asked myself why I thought he WOULD be mad at me ...

until I was asked the question "Do you feel guilty" - then I realised that I DID feel guilty!

No logic, no offer of help - just telling you how it was/is for me...yes I STILL feel guilty! :'(

(You're not gonna get a thumbs up from ME; 'cos you made me cry! Maybe I need to face my guilt issues...okay, you ARE gonna get a thumbs up - because you made me even THINK about facing my guilt issues!!)

Okay - thumbs up given - but how do I "face up to my guilt issues"?

2006-12-09 16:23:29 by S_2006

& they also lie to me, saying that the birth date on the certificate is wrong, as well as the man named on my birth certificate? They say that the man named on my birth certificate isn't my father because I'm not light-skinned like him. But he has other daughters who are brown-skinned like me. & they keep teasing me & rubbing it in my face. & my sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, & cousins don't claim me as family because they think I'm dumb & retarded. But they claim my twin sister as family & include her because she's thuggish & gangsta like them, & I just be myself. My brother makes threats to bat me in the mouth & knock all my teeth out for confronting my mom about who my real father is. But he shouldn't rub it in my face. But my mom keeps lying about my birth date on the certificate. She may be 61, but she's childish, immature, schizophrenic, & delusional. She tells many lies. & my family members follow her delusions like a religion.

& they take it for a joke & laugh, but call me immature for being angry about it? Why do they tell so many lies & play so many frustrating mind games? Me & my twin sister were in foster care from age 5 mos. to 18 yrs. We're 25 now. But they treat my twin sister with more respect than me because we never got along, she always & still does lie on me. She does dirty crimes & blames it on me. She's been doing this ever since we can walk & talk. We weren't supposed to be in any contact with our biological family until after we turned 18. My twin sister snuck & spent time with them before we turned 18, & she kept that a big secret away from me. Come to find out, it was because she told the family dirty things about me before they can even meet me for the 1st time. Because of her lies, the family has no respect for me. We never got along. Now, the whole family lies on me, spreads false rumors, threatens me out of my $$, tries to destroy my life, beat me up, take advantage of me & think it's funny & feel no remorse.

& even after we turned 18, my twin sister tricked me into meeting the biological family by surprise, & the foster mom & social worker got mad @ me & blamed me & not her. She was the 1 who deceived ME!

It really hurts that I have to avoid them for the rest of my life in order to stay safe & successful. They tell me I deserve to be dead, & they hate me so much they don't want me to reproduce kids.

I used to be an honors student in high school, & focusing on my dreams. The foster family, my twin sister, & social worker lied to military recruiters about me, telling them to not allow me into the military because (according to them, I'm crazy & retarded). The foster mom made SURE I didn't succeed @ majoring in Biology-PreMed because she thought that me wanting to be an OB/GYN was a sign of perversion. Not the case.

We were put in foster care because our schizophrenic, druggie mom putting me in the clothes drawer shortly after birth. There were lies about that, too. She kept denying it. Wouldn't it be natural for a former foster child to confront their biological family about why he/she got taken away?

***Even though I'm 25, I wish to know who my real father is. The whole family would jump me if I asked for a paternity test. They try to belittle me by saying that me & my twin sister's dad had nappy hair & was in a wheelchair, & laughed, just to lower my self-esteem even worse. My mom is brown-skinned with coarse hair & light brown eyes. How do me & my twin sister come out with wavy & curly hair? Similar to the texture of the brother who keeps rubbing it in my face about the man named on our birth certificate not being our dad?

I don't want to be considered fatherless or a bastard. The man named on our birth certificate, we have his last name, & people say I look sort of like him & more like him than my twin sister. Our mom was probably lying & delusional, telling the other sisters & brothers that our dad is someone else, but she told me that the man on my birth certificate IS my dad. So I don't know if she lied to them, or if she's lying to me. Why do other people have a right to know who their real parents are, but for me to want to know is considered wrong & childish?
My mom tries to keep everyone away from her husband-the man on my birth certificate. If I ask to swab his cheek while she was gone from the house, he'd curse me from A-Z.
When I say "deal", I meant "cope". No, I don't want to interact with these hateful people, but I need to know the truth about who my real father is. I don't want to be viewed as a bastard.

My mom is 50 and she doesn't know who her real father is either. Her mother would never talk about it, actually got mad when she did. Her grandmother and uncles wanted to help but they really didn't know. My grandmother, umm, well I guess she had quite a few men during that time. Anyway I can't help too much but I would suggest you try to find the man on your birth certificate. Try people searches, myspace, facebook, bebo. Search craigslist, old friends of you mom's. With the internet you really do have a good chance at finding him. When you do find him, yes WHEN you do stay positive, ask him. Talk to him. Explain that you don't want anything except to know who your father is. If he has half-a-heart he will help you. Maybe ask him to get a DNA test. I believe you can even get an at-home or mail-in test. Just a cheek swab, nothing more. If that doesn't work I don't know what else to tell you. I can't believe she won't tell you who your father is. No matter how bad of a person he may be you deserve to know, if for nothing more than acknowledgment or medical records. Good luck and I really hope everything works out for you.


I wonder if you have any legal rights. I believe that children do actually have a right to know who there parents are but I'm not sure what it is called. Maybe you should consult a lawyer. Most lawyers will advise you for free.

2009-04-04 12:19:44 by Question Queen Y!A veteran