How Do I Get Rid Of Used Wheelchair

...you to put yourself in my shoes and help me.)

OK, you guys, you see my problem above.
When I go out with my mates almost everyone of them appears with his or her partner which makes me feel kinda redundant.
But this isn't the only thing. I personally feel that I'm ready for a (lasting) relationship and would like to have someone who is always there for me and who I can always be there for.
My disability only affects my capability to walk and slightly (only really slightly) the movement of my left hand. Apart from this, everything is totally ok (brainwork, etc.).
The girls in my clique who aren't in a relationship only regard me as a "friend" but nothing more.
Of course, I'm not the best-looking guy in the area and am a bit overweight due to not being able to do many sports but I'm not ugly, either.
Also, when it appears that I'm trying to build up a closer connection to any other girl there is usually someone who tries to wangle her off me (without the intention to hurt me, though, because I try to approach a girl rather slowly and thus it might not be obvious for the other guy what I'm aiming at) and of course I'm not in the physical condition to react against him.
Furthermore it seems to me that girls feel kinda awkward when they have to look down at me or go a step back when I'm talking to them (for I'm just sitting in front of them) or they might think they had to treat me like a baby (I might need some help doing several ordinary things, though).
I'm doing a therapy right now to try to get rid of this f*cking wheelchair but I think it would be sad if that was a mandatory requirement to start a relationship.
By the way, I would like to find the girl in real life. I would use online dating communities only as the last option, if possible.
And, oh, I forgot: I'm 16 at the moment.

Finally, two more questions:
(For the guys:) If you were in my position, how would you proceed?
(For the girls:) How would you react if a guy in a wheelchair wanted to start a relationship with you?

Phew, I know this is a lot to read in comparison to other questions but I hope someone will be able to help me.
I look forward to reading your answers. =)

I'm 16 too (a girl though) but I hope I can help you out. Well to start if a guy wanted to start a relationship with me I would give him a chance it wouldn't matter to me if he was in a wheelchair or if he could fly I mean if he's sweet and cute of course I would give him a shot. It sounds like you just need to get over your shyness I know its not easy I'm shy too around guys I just met or that I really like but once we start talking we both get really flirty and usually I start to like him. But I guess every girl is somewhat like that. You just have to be confident (or pretend to be at first) and you will shine brighter than any of those other guys in your group. What girls love the most is a guy that makes her laugh and that she always has a great time with so be witty and clever it'll make any girl fall for you I promise. You will find the perfect girl for you someday ever one is meant to be with somebody. Who knows she could already be one of your good friends and you just havnt realized it. Dont be afraid of rejection either I mean the worst that could happen is she says she just wants to be friends it happens to every guy but its worth it because youll find a girl that says yes eventually. Hope you can find her soon :).

2009-07-02 01:40:46 by i don't wear tophats

Circle. God has given us a huge gift and we're just thrilled with how awesome it is and how awesome God is, how real He is. The Psalmist said ...

Since I sit in wheelchair I feel so unconfortable while being in a conversation with other people. It's the physical logic that I have to look up to them and they have to look down on me to keep eye contact during a conversation, but it makes me feel so bad- and recently I noticed that I react somewhat of sensitive whenever someone makes any harsh comments about me (as if everybody would laugh about me- even if they don't).

Will I get used to the 'looking down on me' situations anyday?

The 'looking down on me' feeling is not only in physical situations- even if someone would talk to me on the phone or online chat (they know me sitting in wheelchair) I get the feeling they wouldn't respect me at all.

What can I do?

Many thanks in advance.

It gets easier.

You need to get more comfortable with who you are now and the more comfortable you are then the more comfortable that will make others feel, and the easier it will be to interact with them.

Even though standing people need to look down physically when talking to you they won't be looking down emotionally and psychologically. Try to remember that. If it helps, encourage others to sit when talking to you, or perhaps they could squat or kneel? Though I often find that's more patronizing than helpful!

On the telephone the person on the other end can't see that you're in a wheelchair and even if they know that you are, they won't be thinking about it unless that's what the conversation is about so try not to think about it yourself. I know that's really hard but please try.

I'm guessing from the way you asked your question that you've not been a wheelchair user for very long. I found at the beginning that I could really tell the difference between people who had known me walking and people who only knew me wheeling. Those who had known me walking reacted with sympathy and pity while those who only knew me on wheels acted like that's how I'd always been and it didn't bother them. It was helpful to me to explain to my friends who had known me before that I was now a wheelchair user and no amount of pity would change that. I'm still the same person I always was, with the same bad habits and dodgy sense of humor and I'd appreciate it if they try to ignore the wheelchair and treat me like they always had.It has to be handled carefully and your friends need their space to grieve the change in you, but it's still OK to tell them how you feel and how they can help.

The best thing you can do to help yourself is get used to your new situation and become comfortable with the new you. Others will follow your lead.

2009-09-28 23:54:25 by silent

Someone signed me up for this thing when I have no use and am wheelchair bound, so when I do go out I use my message machine. I have no use for voicemail-heck, I do not know how it works. I really need the number for this company so I can get rid of the charges-being on a fixed income, I NEED every penny.

The best source of this information will be your telephone company. It might also be a feature of your telephone service.

Your bill should have the phone number of your telephone service provider and also should supply the number for any third-party bills that are added to the phone bill. At least, mine does.

If you cannot find a phone number on your telephone bill or from the phone company, the name of the company, address, or at least the city and state they are located would be helpful to find them. I wasn't able to find a company providing that service using the information you provided in your question.

Good luck and feel free to contact me with any further information.

2006-09-20 14:38:19 by MaryBug

I used to play 9 ball on shockwave before they got rid of it. Now I'm stuck with 8 ball there or yahoo..Which to be honest is very glitchy at times..But it does work..But they don't have free 9 ball on the yahoo messenger or otherwise!

Can anyone help? (And before you say it.I can not play real pool..Or ateast don't know how, being that I am in a wheelchair..sides I said free..:p)

www.flyordie.com/
www.miniclip.com/games/9-ball-pool/en/
www.zone.msn.com/en/bankshot9ball/default.htm
www.candystand.com/play.do?id=17886
www.playgetcash.com/games/pool-9-ball/

2007-10-06 07:34:18 by homicidalloner

This is the beginning of a book, or short story i'm currently working on. I'm not sure if its even any good, or which directon i need to go next. All feedback is welcome. thanks in advance. Please look over the grammatical errors as this is a very rough draft!


When I look back on it now, it seems so long ago, as if nothing ever happened. But I know it did, I just know it did, there’s no way I could make that up, no way.
I was sitting outside in my wheel chair, enjoying watching the bright greens of summer trees turn to autumn brown as fall began to sit in. I used to love this time of year back when I was young, now all I do is sit here and think about the past.
I’ve often wondered how I could get rid of cretin memories, and just keep what I want to remember. Boy, wouldn’t that make life a lot easier? Memories trigger thoughts, thoughts trigger patterns, and patterns trigger actions, and some o f those actions can turn into one of those memories you’d like to forget. I know a lot of my actions have turned into bad memories, but they seem to be memories that only I can remember. Although I know other people where there, hell one of them was my son, the will never admit it. That’s what landed me here, Broken Brooke Senior Home for the Sick and Elderly. Now I’m not old enough to be in one of these homes, I’m only 60 and I can get around just fine on my own, but everyone insists that I’m crazy and won’t let me do much o anything besides sit in this wheelchair. So I sit here day after day, and I think thought after thought. With each thought I remember a little bit more, like the beginning, it all seems to be coming back to me, slowly but surely.
It was about 15 years ago when I stumbled onto the secret that would change my life forever, I wish I could go back and feel what I felt then, it was so exciting and new, I didn’t know what was coming next, and I liked it.
It was mid summer in the year 1962; I was 45 at the time and had a wonderful wife and two great children. My job could have been better, but it paid the bills. I was always one to wonder about cretin things, like how we got here, what religion was correct, is there such things a ghosts? I’m sure all of these things are very common to wonder about, so I never felt anything was wrong with it. From the time I was a child everyone told me I over analyze things, and I should just leave the unexplainable to “faith”. Well I always hated that answer, which led me on some pretty wild goose chases, and one of those chases led me to something unbelievable.
It was about 9pm and the sky was dark. With each star and a full moon lighting up the purple sky. I lived out in the country, surrounded by thick forest with beautiful trees. For the past few nights there has been a strange light shining for the woods east of my home. The light seemed fairly close, so of course I couldn’t leave it be, I had to see what it was. My son and I put on our shoes and grabbed a gun (these woods are a great place for coyotes to take refuge forms the busy interstate a few miles away) and we headed out toward the light shining bright in the night sky.

The idea seems good and you've written some good sentences - I really agreed with the part about memories and the way you said it is great.
You could revise your writing and add more adjectives and descriptions.
The last part seems to be a bit rushed - you could write pages just about that if you want.

Good luck!

2009-03-24 10:35:18 by Michael B